Sunday, June 7, 2009
By : Joshua Uebergang
An interesting characteristic you’ll notice in people who lack confidence is when they do talk just by listening you are able to tell they lack confidence. They’ll often talk quietly and mumble.
To many times people had to ask me to repeat what little things I did say because of my soft and unclear voice. When you’re asked to repeat yourself you develop frustration thinking “ah, why don’t they just listen?” but the problem lies in you and not them. Acknowledge that you’re responsible otherwise you’ll never solve your problem.
Here’s how I solved poor voice clarity and volume. I didn’t learn this from anywhere else. This is from pure experience. Once you learn you do talk softly or with an unclear voice and once you desire to solve the problem, whenever you talk do so with clarity and good volume. You may not do so successfully every time, but you must try.
Nothing revolutionary there.
The true tip is making 100% effort and no excuses when doing this. When you’re tired or unhappy you’ll want to revert back to your old ways but you must not if you want to improve. You must have zero tolerance for laziness and always put in your fullest effort to communicate confidently.
“You must have zero tolerance for laziness and
always put in your fullest effort to communicate
confidently.”
When you’re relentless and make every effort to talk confidently, you’re practicing good habits. When you practice good habits, the behavior is reinforced and you’re more likely to repeat the good habit. This rule is true for any habit whether good or bad. The communication learning process will rapidly increase if you make every effort to talk confidently and practice good habits.
When you let others overrule you, when you forgo your personal needs continuously, and when you have to repeat yourself because you mumbled all because of low confidence levels, you subconsciously condition yourself to talk less confidently. So when you talk less confidently others begin to overrule you more, you forgo more personal needs, and you lose MORE confidence! It becomes tougher. It’s a downhill spiral that can easily take you all the way to the bottom.
To many times people had to ask me to repeat what little things I did say because of my soft and unclear voice. When you’re asked to repeat yourself you develop frustration thinking “ah, why don’t they just listen?” but the problem lies in you and not them. Acknowledge that you’re responsible otherwise you’ll never solve your problem.
Here’s how I solved poor voice clarity and volume. I didn’t learn this from anywhere else. This is from pure experience. Once you learn you do talk softly or with an unclear voice and once you desire to solve the problem, whenever you talk do so with clarity and good volume. You may not do so successfully every time, but you must try.
Nothing revolutionary there.
The true tip is making 100% effort and no excuses when doing this. When you’re tired or unhappy you’ll want to revert back to your old ways but you must not if you want to improve. You must have zero tolerance for laziness and always put in your fullest effort to communicate confidently.
always put in your fullest effort to communicate
confidently.”
When you’re relentless and make every effort to talk confidently, you’re practicing good habits. When you practice good habits, the behavior is reinforced and you’re more likely to repeat the good habit. This rule is true for any habit whether good or bad. The communication learning process will rapidly increase if you make every effort to talk confidently and practice good habits.
When you let others overrule you, when you forgo your personal needs continuously, and when you have to repeat yourself because you mumbled all because of low confidence levels, you subconsciously condition yourself to talk less confidently. So when you talk less confidently others begin to overrule you more, you forgo more personal needs, and you lose MORE confidence! It becomes tougher. It’s a downhill spiral that can easily take you all the way to the bottom.
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